What Does Sexual Coercion Look Like?

Sexual coercion can be confusing and deeply distressing. Sometimes, coercion is pretty blatant. Other times, it might take a more subtle form. Coercion typically remains in the realm of verbal and emotional pressure. Sexual coercion often happens in romantic relationships, but it can also happen in other contexts — between acquaintances, co-workers, friends or family, at school, at a party, or anywhere else. They might use threats, persuasion, and other tactics to get the outcome they want. What you do feel is great chemistry with your date. Once you say no, your partner should respect that.

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