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October 2, Wishing all readers of this blog a happy springtime! Spring symbolises birth and renewal and so I hope that you will use this time to think of ways to revitalise your relationships, with others and most importantly with yourself. Perhaps some of the material on this blog will provide you with inspiration for doing just that. According to Wile, most problems in emotionally committed relationships result from feelings we are unable to express and conversations we are unable to have with our partner. In the book, he shows how to turn inevitable relationship problems into opportunities for intimacy. I learnt a lot from reading this book and hope that you will also want to get a copy of it after reading this post. Have you ever wished that your partner would spontaneously: - Perform a particularly thoughtful or caring act that will really make you feel appreciated?

Advertise an article on TherapyRoute Behind our fear of intimacy, we may animate out a fantasy bond as a substitute for a loving relationship. A good number people have certain fears of closeness and can become self-protective yet by the same time fear being abandoned. Our solution to this dilemma is to form a fantasy bond which can reduce the possibility of body in successful relationships. What is a fantasy bond? A fantasy bond allows us to maintain our imagination of love and loving - an appearance of love, closeness and connection along with another while at the same age preventing real emotional contact. This self-deception enables us to maintain a certainty of closeness and intimacy, yet we act in ways that belie adoration through robotic forms of going all the way through the motions in our intimate relationships. A fantasy bond brings about aspect changes in a relationship and as a rule appears following significant events that be a sign of the seriousness of our relationship. These may include deep moments of affection love or loved, mutual expression of love, living together, marriage, the advantage of a family. When love amid two people grows deeper it becomes more frightening and as a affiliation becomes more intimate and more central to us, we start to air more vulnerable and susceptible to beating, hurt.