My husband left me for another woman – but now wants me back

I am not good at math, but this much I know is true. Another thing I know? Communication is key in any relationship—trust, even your expensive Upper West Side therapist and your expensive Lower East Side dungeon mistress would both agree. But the good news is that conflict can be a massive opportunity for growth and connection once you move past the uncomfortable tension and onto the sexy rewards waiting in the resolution.

The dilemma Last year I found absent that my husband of 20 years had been having an affair designed for a few months. It came at the same time as a terrible shock — I cried and cried for weeks. When asked to choose between her and me, he chose her and left me. I kept on crying. Two months after this revelation, I met a big cheese and fell in love. This was a lifesaving event. I felt active and young again.

They want men to realize their bound to happen part in the scheme of things. That is, to honor their character in the relations between the sexes: after a look around among the women available, choose one, put a ring on her finger, and acquire on with basic plan. Because I have been privy to the classified confessions of what women have done to men — both as wives and girlfriends — to drive them either to boredom, or completely absent, I will write an anatomy of the problem and the solution en route for a true romantic interlude. This can sound outrageously simplistic. I am a minute ago a mistress after all.