The sadness of living without sex

If you are on the proverbial market, as you rack up phone swipes, first dates, and—likely—new sexual partners, you might start to ask yourself, Is all this dating going to make me happier with whomever I end up with? Or are you simply stuck on a hedonic treadmill of potential lovers, doomed like some sort of sexual Sisyphus to be perpetually close to finding your soul mate, only to realize—far, far too late—that they are deal-breakingly disappointing? Meanwhile, the lowest odds of marital happiness—about 13 percentage points lower than the one-partner women—belong to women who have had six to 10 sexual partners in their lives. Bradford Wilcox, a sociologist and senior fellow at the Institute for Family Studies and an Atlantic contributor. These divorce-proof brides are an exclusive crew: By the s, he writes, just 5 percent of new brides were virgins.

I am a year-old virgin. My boyfriend wants to have sex with me, but I have never been aroused by him. Even if he tries lots of foreplay, I still allow no interest and feel nervous all time I am in bed along with him. I get aroused when abandoned, but why can I not air the pleasure most people feel after they have sex?