A Therapist Shares 8 Things To Look For In A Life Partner.

And at first glance, research seems to back this up, suggesting that married people are on average happier than single people and much happier than divorced people. Dissatisfied single people should actually consider themselves in a neutral, fairly hopeful position, compared to what their situation could be. All the research on how vastly happiness varies between happy and unhappy marriages makes perfect sense, of course. Well, start by subtracting your age from So given that this is by far the most important thing in life to get right, how is it possible that so many good, smart, otherwise-logical people end up choosing a life partnership that leaves them dissatisfied and unhappy? People tend to be bad at knowing what they want from a relationship.

I call this pursuing The Prom Appointment. Someone who looks great in pictures, gives you a night full of fun, and makes you look back off in front of your friends. Accomplish you really want to marry the Prom Date? To worry if your partner is going to help you take care of your aging parents? The answers have little bearing arrange whether you want to kiss the person or go out with them again. And who wants to assume about diarrhea on a first date!? Someone you can rely on. A big cheese to make decisions with.