How To Have a Threesome When You're The Couple

In my early 20s, I had a friend with benefits. I thought about telling him to do what I did to get myself off—touch my clitoris—but I froze. The thought of correcting him triggered a wave of anxiety. Nobody else had ever actually made me orgasm. The pressure was too much. When I started masturbating, orgasming on my own wasn't a problem. But during college, when I started having partnered sex, the orgasms that used to pardon the pun come readily were suddenly nowhere to be found. But after I went off them at age 24 and partnered orgasms were still not happening, I realized there was something else getting in the way of my fully letting go the way I could when I was alone. I started to believe I'd never orgasm during sex.

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Two of my friends and I had talked about it: We were commonly interested in each other, and we were mutually interested in having a threesome. Great, step one accomplishedI accepted wisdom to myself. We know we absence to make it happen, but how, exactly, do we have a threesome? Concerns began to swarm my advance. Would we meet at one of our houses? None of us lived alone, so how were we available to make that work?